The Art of Presence? More like The Art of Pretense!

Oh Davey, what have you done.

So now you're dabbling in clinical psychology? Even teaching it?

It sounds more like you've read one article somewhere and are now making sweeping generalizations... but what else is new?

Jeffrey Grossman points out:

When faced with tragedy or trauma, I have not wanted "builders" in my life. Nor have I taken comfort in "firefighters," seeking to do their duty. I have a small group of friends, and we will always be present for one another. I don't need or want more than that. But that's just me. Each of us is different.

But more importantly, Dave, as you tell us how to listen to folks (tip: don't talk), did you yourself listen?

Yastreblyansky tells it how it is:

[The original author] on the subject of how to behave toward people who have experienced unspeakable grief and trauma, last week:

• Do not offer platitudes or comparisons. Do not, do not, do not....
• Allow those suffering to tell their own stories.

David Brooks, on the subject of Woodiwiss's recent blog post, today:

• [offers platitudes]
• [tells her story for her]

Well, thanks for listening. Tune in next week for our next exciting review.